I'm attending ask you to something very weird right now. Firstly, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative?

Now let's say you're walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone who'd meet you would be able to tell you what’s on your mind?

The answer to number one is up to you. But, the answer number two can be pretty generic. Although people won't be able to tell you exactly what you think, they'll more or less have an idea of how you're feeling.

Here's another question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as though something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for something exciting to happen?

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You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of mind.

Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude. The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too – unless, of course, you are a great actor.

And it does not end there. Your attitude can also affect people around you.

The type of attitude you carry depends upon you. It can be either positive or negative.

Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.

Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake.

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude.

We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you have a negative attitude brewing up. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you're more likely carry a positive attitude.
You've much to gain from a very positive attitude. For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude.

A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you'll love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others are around feel the same way.

A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.

If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts. A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought.

If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to hear positive things likewise. So, what can you do? Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

Although it's impossible to keep ourselves from the negative things around us, you are able to still carry a positive attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in life.

And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit by them, and listen to them. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.

If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead? One who carries a negative attitude may be actually sending a signal for attention. Before you get me wrong, feeling sad, angry, or gloomy isn't wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either. There is a time to mourn.

As always, if you're beset by troubles, even in your darkest hour, concentrate on the good things in life, you'll always have hope. Problems become something you can overcome.

You do not have much to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day. So, what's not to like about a positive attitude? Adopt one

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Time direction is basically about being focused. The Pareto Principle a.k.a. the '80:20 Rule' states that 80% of efforts that is not time managed or unfocused generates only 20% of the desired output. All the same, 80% of the desired output can be generated using only 20% of a well time managed effort. Although the ratio '80:20' is only arbitrary, it is used to put emphasis on how much is lost or however much can be gained with time management.

Some people opinion time management as a list of rules that involves scheduling of appointments, goal settings, thorough planning, making things to do lists and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time direction skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to brand the results you desire.

But there's more skills involved in time management than the core basics. Skills such as decision making, inherent abilities such as emotional intelligence and critical thinking are also essential to your personal development.

Personal time management involves everything you do. Regardless how big and no matter how small, everything counts. Each new knowledge you acquire, each new advice you consider, each fresh skill you develop should be taken into consideration.

Having a balanced life-style should be the key result in having personal time direction. This is the main aspect that many practitioners of personal time management fail to grasp.



Time management are about getting results, not about being busy.

The 6 areas that personal time management seeks to improve in anyone's life are physical, intellectual, social, career, emotional and spiritual.

The physical aspect involves having a healthy bodiless stress and fatigue.

The intellectual aspect involves learning and other mental growth actions.

The social aspect involves developing personal or intimate relations and being an active contributor to society.

The career aspect involves schooling and work.

The emotional aspect involves appropriate feelings and desires and manifesting it.

The spiritual aspect involves a personal quest after meaning.

Thoroughly planning and having a set of things to do list for each of the key areas may not be very practical, but determining which area in your life isn't being giving enough attention is part of time management. Each area creates the whole you, if you are ignoring one area then you're ignoring an important part of yourself.

Personal time management shouldn't be so daunting a task. It is a very sensible and reasonable approach in solving problems big or small.

A great way of learning time management and improving your personal life is to follow a lot of basic activities.
Among them is to review your goals whether it be immediate or long-term goals often.

A way to do this is to keep a list that's always accessible to you.

Always determine which task is necessary or not necessary in achieving your destinations and which activities are helping you maintain a balanced life style.

Each and everyone of us has a peek time and a time when we slow up, these are our natural cycles. We should be able to tell when to do the difficult tasks when we are the sharpest.

Learning to say "no more". You actually see this advice often. Heed it even if it involves saying the word to family or friends.

Pat yourself at the back or just reward yourself in any manner for an effective time management result.

Try and get the cooperation from people close to you who are actually benefiting from your efforts of time management.

Don't procrastinate. Attend necessary things immediately.

Have a positive attitude and set yourself up for success. But be realistic in your approach in achieving your ends.

Have a record or journal of all your activities. This will help you get things in their proper perspective.

These are the few steps you initially take in becoming a well rounded individual.

As the say personal time management is the art and science of building a better life.

From the moment you integrate into your life time management skills, you've opened several options that can provide a broad spectrum of solutions to your personal growth. It also creates more doors for opportunities to knock on.
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Everybody, at some point of his or her lifetime, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? Who has not dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our human relationship?

Often, we ambition big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our ambitions remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic.

This is a sad turn of events in our life. Rather than experiencing exciting adventures in self actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing.

But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.

The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can't do this. It's too hard. It's too impossible. No one can do this.

However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.

Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does.

On the other word, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations.

If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.

Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life. Under one header, list down things ‘you know you can do’. Under another header, write the things ‘you might be able to do.’ And under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’

Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Check them when you are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’


Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Check them when you are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’

As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished, you are able to move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’

As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin to seem possible after all.

You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little. However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic.

Those who just ambition towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned.

On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.

Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one.

Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be.

So dream on, friend! Do not get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you come forward the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.

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How many times have you gone to sleep at night, swearing you'll go to the gym in the morning time, and then changing your mind just eight hours later because once you get up, you don't feeling like exercising?

While this can happen to the best of us, it doesn't mean you should drop the ball altogether when it comes to staying fit. What people ask to realize is that staying active and eating right are critical for long-term health and wellness -- and that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. The more you know about how your body responds to your lifestyle choices, the better you will be able to customize a nutrition and exercise plan i.e. right for you. When you consume well, increase your level of physical activity, and exercising at the proper intensity, you're informing your body that you prefer to burn a substantial amount of fuel. This translates to burning fat more efficiently for energy.put differently, proper eating habits plus exercise equals fast metabolism, which, in turn gives you more energy throughout the day and allows for you to do more physical work with lower effort.
Truth purpose of exercise is to send a repetitive message to the body asking for improvement in metabolism, strength, aerobic capacity and overall fitness and health. Each time you exercise, your body responds by upgrading its capacities to burn fat throughout the around-the-clock, Exercise doesn't have to be intense to work for you, but it does need to be consistent.




I recommend engaging in regular cardiovascular exercise four times per week for twenty to half-hour per session, and resistance training four times per week for twenty to twenty-five minutes per session. This balanced approach provides a one-two punch, incorporating aerobics to burn fat and deliver more oxygen, and resistance coaching to increase lean body mass and burn more calories around the block.

Here's a sample exercise program that may work for you:

* Warm -- 7 to 8 minutes of light aerobic activity intended to increase blood flow and lubricate and warm your sinews and joints.

* Resistance coaching -- Train all major muscle groups. 1 to 2 sets of each exercise. Rest forty-five seconds between sets.

* Aerobics -- Pick 2 favorite activities, they could be jogging, rowing, biking or cross-country skiing, whatever fits your lifestyle. Perform twelve to quarter-hour of the 1st activity and continue with ten minutes of the 2nd activity. Cool down during the last 5 minutes.

* Stretching -- Wrap up your exercise session along stretching, breathing deeply, relaxing and meditating.

When starting an exercise program, it's important to have realistic expectations. Depending on your initial fitness level, you should expect the following changes early.

* From one to 8 weeks -- Feel improve and have more energy.

* From two to 6 months -- Lose size and inches while becoming leaner. Clothes begin to fit more loosely. You're gaining muscle and losing fat.

* After 6 months -- Start reducing quite rapidly.

Once you make the commitment to exercise several times a week, do not stop there. You should also change your diet and/or eating habits,' says Zwiefel. Counting calories or calculating grams and percentages for certain nutrients is impractical. Instead, I suggest these easy-to-follow rules of thumb:

* Consume several small meals (optimally 4) and a few small snacks throughout the day
* Make sure every meal is balanced -- incorporate palm-sized proteins like lean meats, fish, egg whites (albumens) and dairy products, fist-sized portions of complex carbohydrates like whole meal bread and pasta, wild rice, multigrain cereal and potatoes, and fist-sized portions of vegetable and fruits
* Limit your fat intake to only what's necessary for adequate flavor
* Drink at the least eight 8-oz. glasses of water throughout the day
* I also recommend that you take a multi-vitamin every day to ensure you are getting all the vitamins and minerals your body needs.

I opine that's all I can think of for now. I should extend my thanks to a doctor friend of mine. Without him, I wouldn't be able to write this report, or keep my sanity.

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When you bring everything down to simple plumbing, the whole question of erectile dysfunction gets easier to understand. It's all to do with pumps and valves. When the arteries dilate, the blood flows into the penis. As it swells, the pressure shuts off the veins that would drain the blood out and, before you can say Jack Robinson (sometimes say it several times), you have an erection. If the problem is with the plumbing, the little blue pill is effective and dilates the right arteries. And, in the majority of cases, the problem is with the plumbing, so it's easily fixed. Unfortunately, the plumbing system sits in a building and there can be problems with the owner. For the whole thing to work, the owner has to want it to work. He has to want to respond to the sexual stimulation. Erections do not happen by accident. They reflect the mind.

This brings the bad news. If the cause of the erectile dysfunction is psychological, trying to rely on the little blue pill is not only a waste of time, it is also going to add a new layer of performance anxiety to the man's list of problems. The truth is that if a man is seriously depressed or has gone through an extremely stressful situation, there may be no enthusiasm for sex. Now add in all the other possibilities, like there are religious or cultural reasons why the man might find the idea of sex inappropriate or distasteful, and the likelihood of an erection recedes into the distance. Worse, suppose the man has been sexually abused or his first experiences with a woman left his self-confidence shattered. If the mind and the body cannot work together, sexual relationships are not going to be a success.

For once, it's actually more appropriate to talk about love rather than sex which tends to be the more mechanical form. When two people are in love, they are more relaxed and the relationship develops more naturally. There is more trust and fewer inhibitions. When the man is depressed, trust in self is lost. The antidepressants often have impotence as a side effect. So therapy rather than drugs is the better route. Once therapy begin to lift the depression and change attitudes towards sex, there will be a time to buy viagra. Self-knowledge and understanding can help someone back into a relationship. Assuming that the partner is still willing, an active sex life can be resumed. In its own right, this decision needs to be planned. Performance anxiety needs to be addressed and viagra is a reliable drug to produce the erection once the mind is willing. Not everyone can recover from a depression and still make the relationship work. But once trust begins to return, the chances are good.



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All people know,when people are young and healthy, they can live for the now, enjoying life as it comes, thinking only of tomorrow when it's unavoidable. This is the mayfly time when the young and beautiful fly free of responsibility. Sadly, this time is all too short. Gravity soon catches up with people and they fall back down to the ground and see new roles developing as parents. Suddenly, health matters and what was put off must now be considered. So most people go online, use one of the search engines and find the cheapest policy going. That will do. It's a policy. It will do the job. Then the renewal date comes around and there's no need to review and reconsider. There's a policy. That will do. Except not everyone is organized. Not every remembers their partner's birthday. Not everyone remembers the renewal dates on their insurance policies. Most of the time, people get away with it. They get around to it before anything happens. But failure to renew can be life-threatening. What makes it worse is that it need not be your life that's threatened. Suppose it's the life of your child.

Let's start again. People should take responsibility for their lives and plan for tomorrow. Although it's all right to shelter under your parent's health plan whilst you're young, there comes a point when you have to begin to establish your own track record. Paying your own way when you have the means is the right thing to do. But that does not mean simply accepting the cheapest policy. As with everything in life, you get what you pay for. The basic cover fails when you have more than a basic illness. So read the policies before you choose which one to buy. This is more than looking down a list of diseases and disorders. Think about what you need. If you fall seriously ill, you need treatment and income replacement if you cannot continue to work. You also need continuity of cover. It's no good waiting to find out whether your policy is going to renewed or the premium hiked. This is something you should think about when you take out your first health insurance policy or renew whilst still healthy.




Health insurance is something you should try to get right. Never look at a list of diseases covered without also looking at the exclusions and exceptions that might deny you cover. Yes, there may be a lot to read and the language is not designed to make it easy. But taking the time early on saves a lot of pain later. There is also one other very important warning. Always be honest and complete in your disclosures. If you have some medical problems, disclose them. If the insurer finds out you have been economical with the truth, it has the right to cancel the cover. That covers all the main points. We remind you that you may have the right to claim tax relief on the premiums. That should be the bonus after you have put the right policy with the right coverage at the right price in place to protect you and your family.
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When you're young and maybe in good health, you often live for the now. Some have the qualifications to find employment including health insurance in the compensation package, but most take what is available and let things drift until responsibilities come along. Then you start asking questions about what you want in the future. It starts with a partnership or marriage. It gets more urgent when children appear on the scene.

If you found a job with a health insurance package, you can usually add your new partner or spouse to the plan. The first issue is whether that plan gives all the cover you need. Should there be gaps, you buy top-up cover. Then as the family grows, does the plan include children and any other dependents? Overnight, you become experts in the detail of the employer's plan and carefully research what the private health insurance companies offer to give the additional cover.

If your job has no health plan, but one of you had the wisdom to begin a private health policy, it is usually possible to upgrade to a family policy. Because you have track record with a company, this is less of a hassle than finding a completely new company for the family.

If you're starting with no health cover, you will find there are major differences in the premiums quoted. Through sites like this, you get instant quotes from multiple health insurance companies. By using two or three sites like this, you can rapidly accumulate a daunting array of information about different policies and quoted prices. This makes choosing the right cover a real challenge. The first step is take a cold-blooded look at the family finances. This is not a time for sentimentality or blind hope. You need hard figures on what you can afford to pay not just now, but in the foreseeable future. Remember your credit score drops if you start a policy and then find you cannot afford the premiums.

The next step is to decide exactly who is to be included in the policy and what range of cover you want - just basic treatment options working up to long-term care insurance. Remember the larger the group and the wider the age range of the people to be included, the more the premium is likely to be. The more conditions, illnesses and injury possibilities you add, the more expensive the policy is likely to be. This drives you back to your financial calculations. The way to lower the premiums is to accept a higher deductible or copayments. But this needs a careful calculation. How much will you pay each year as self-insurance through the deductibles or expenses, against the saving in the annual premium. Weigh the benefits against foreseeable costs to make the right decision on which family health insurance policy to buy.
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Loosing excessive weight and fat is a very good choice for your health but sometimes it doesn't go as easy as you want to. Here are three reasons you don't get that effectiveness in losing weight you need. This is an article for those who are having a struggle losing weight. If you are following diet rules but you cannot seem to get any thinner or if your scale is making you mad day by day showing you some crazy numbers you don't want to see - consider one more fact - you might me eating more calories than you are burning. There are three rules to follow in order to lose some weight and become the body you want to be. 1. Weight loss routines: Dreaming can get us anywhere. Unfortunately it isn't so, at least when we talk about burning calories. Let's take a look at one example: Let's say you are a woman that is over 35, short and not very active. Obviously if you aren't moving much you are not burning enough calories and if it is loss than 1800 a day you might end up in trouble. Sitting home, being a couch potato is cool but how will it help getting the perfect body you desire? It won't. So what is the solution? Be more energetic - do yoga, pilates or walk distances. All of this will burn around 300 calories an hour. If we multiply this by two, three or four time it will show a bigger number. But what if it is still not much? Do more! Sky is the limit! Jogging is better than walking. If you jog for a full hour every single day you will lose a pound a week. If we think about it - it is not much, but in combination with exercises and diet it can turn out to be a success. 2. It is a terrible mistake thinking you can ease it up and treat yourself with a dessert when you are following a strict diet. Most people consider that a candy once in a while won't make a difference and it honestly will. It is about your attitude towards the things you do. The type of food we usually reward ourselves with has many calories. Junk food, sweets, chocolate bars, ice-cream so on - they become our guilty-pleasure enemies. If you take your weight loss seriously you might be surprised with how seriously great the result may be. You can create a special schedule and note your achievements in the duel with the caloric food. A little piece of a yummy cake can cost you up to 12 hours of walking distances. So think about it! 3. Don't get caught up in a lie. Most manufacturers know how fragile and sensitive people are about their weight. They try to mark their food as "good for you" and "light" when they want it to sell good. "Fat free" labels nowadays are bombarding the market. But don't let yourself get fooled - fat free products can have a tremendous number of calories just from carbohydrates and sugars contained. If you want to know the " real deal" , check the back side of the tag to see the " serving size" of the piece of food you are about to eat. Sometimes doing math calculations can ruin your day as "fat free" might turn into "making you fat" type of food. If you don't trust yourself to lost weight on your own, go to the nearest drug store and ask about phentermine. Most grown-ups use it as a reliable "hunger fighter" that will leave you with a positive result, causing you the less trouble. Phentermine HCL is good for both - men and women. It is not problematic to lost weight. Most of us make it a problem by doing something wrong and not being able to stop with the things that make us unhealthy and unhappy deep inside. Be active and care about your body - as this is all you need to do at the end of the day!


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Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. Getting flunked grades make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income. Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments. It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.

With the countless negativities the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? Try on the tips I prepared from A to Z…

A - Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

B - Believe in your self, and in what you can do.

C – Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.

D – Don’t give up and don’t give in. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation as your steering wheel.

E – Enjoy. Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.



F – Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t loose sight of them.

G – Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things.

H – Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force.

I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.

J – Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone.

K – keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self improvement.
L – Learn to love your self. Now isn’t that easy?

M – Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.

N – Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game.

O – Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be.

P – Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes.

Q – Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate – are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?

R – Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark.

S – Stop procrastinating.

T – Take control of your life. Discipline or self control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self improvement.

U – Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second.

V – Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on a dry land.

W – Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self improvement.

X – X Factor is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to put on “extras” on your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.

Y – You are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you’re just going to spend it once.

Z – Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!






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We can say if Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.

Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?


There are no guarantees.

You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent. There are too many possible outcomes, which your really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to different situations.



Wrong decisions are always at hindsight.

Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong.


Take the risk: decide.

Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveller or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid. Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best option in the face of life’s crossroads:
· Get as many information as you can about your situation.

You cannot find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W’s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of information about a situation.

· Identify and create options.

What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.

· Weigh the pros and cons of every option.

Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.

· Trust yourself and make that decision.

Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose… decide… believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.


Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.

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